Sisters Building Sisters

Always in my heart

The death of a child is a hard thing to bare. Be it miscarriage, stillborn, SID, or any other kind of illness the child may have passed away from. It is one of the most painful occurrences life can bring. Theses tragic deaths leave parents with shattered dreams, empty arms, and deep pain. Along with a lot of unanswered questions. The feelings of guilt, rage, anger and disappointment are valid. Don’t judge yourself because of them, having theses feelings doesn’t mean you are losing your mind or that you are emotionally unstable. Cry as much as you need to, and never say sorry for one tear to anyone. Tears are healthy, and it helps release the pain. Remember if you have other children they are also grieving too and need to express their feelings as well. If you are not able to give your children the support they need, call a close friend or a family member or someone form your church and explain to them what’s going on and see if one of them will be willing to offer support for the children.

Don’t be surprised if your partner grieves differently. Each person deals with things in their own way. Please try to be patient and kind with one another. Although it’s hard to be sensitive to each other feelings at this time, it will really be helpful. The lost of any love one especially your child will cause your sleeping, eating, and attitude to change. Make sure to pray and eat right and trust God. There is no need to keep beating your self up asking what did you do wrong, when you come up with the same answer nothing. God knows best and he will never give us more than we can bare. Although it feels like you can’t make it through this hurtful, difficult, time. Just trust in God, and pray everyday. Get you a journal and write every feeling you have down. It doesn’t matter if you lost a child 2 years ago 5 years ago it’s still your child and he/she/or them will forever be in your heart. Trust me I lost 2 and I didn’t think I would make it through, but I did. With the help of God, my spouse, my children, friends and family. Below is a letter form one of my Truegirlfriend members. Please read as she tells her story on how losing her sister made her feel. Stay strong and keep the faith God here’s your prayers and he see your tears.

Love and Blessings

Written by: Mrs. LaTonia Harrell

When I lost my Sister ShiBrittany it was like I lost my soul. I didn’t think I could go on. ShiBrittany, was my best friend and I loved her more than anything. Although she didn’t talk much, I would always tell her everything. I remember waking up to her by my side, and it always made my day brighter. Where ever I went my sister went also. She was like my shadow and I miss her so much. Everyday and night I pray to God and ask him why he took my sister/best friend away. I know now he’s in control and he knows what’s best. She is no longer hurting and in so much pain, she’s in heaven looking down on me, my mom, dad, and other siblings. I miss her so much, and at times I cry and my mom is wondering why my attitude may change and people think I’m acting strange. But it’s my way of dealing with the lost of my sister my best friend. Please keep me in your prayers.

Thank you

Ms. LaShona Williams

Age 16

Along with that letter , she wrote one for her mom. Please read

Mom, you have always been here for me. And I love you and thank you so much. We have or ups and downs but we work through them. I might not always say thank you for the things you do for me, but I appreciate you. I might not say I love you often, but please know that I do. I love you so much mom and I thank you for all you have done for me. I’m hear for you when ever you need me, you can count on me.

Love your Daughter

LaShona